Building High Self Esteem Is Worth It!

Building high self esteem is a step up from just wanting to feel better about oneself or fix a broken relationship or improve a poor body image.  Building high self esteem is like climbing a mountain and wanting to get to the top to enjoy the view and the accomplishment!

One of the main points is recognizing the importance of self responsibility. The more responsible one is for everything in ones life, the greater the self esteem one has.

Of course the opposite is also true.  If we feel like a victim of our circumstances most of the time, then it is very difficult to even acknowledge self responsibility at all.

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9 Main Points of Building High Self Esteem

1. Have a willingness to take responsibility for one’s life.
2. Don’t take things personally. When we do, then take responsibility.
3. Continue building high self esteem by writing and/or speaking self esteem affirmations. This will change negative thought patterns into positive ones.
   
4. Expand list of things to do for oneself and do something just for you every week.
5. Love and approve of ourselves first, rather than 2nd or 3rd or 4th etc. Put ourselves first in our lives.
6. Be alive to opportunities to express kindness and love.  What we share with others comes back to us.  The opposite of this exercise is also true.  If we express our anger to someone it is highly likely we will attract anger back to us.  Think law of attraction here.
7. Feeling depressed about anything?  Write out on a piece of paper things I feel guilty and angry about.  Once done, then write forgiven across the page.  Then burn the paper.  As much as we want to believe in what we feel is the truth, they are simply our feelings and need to be felt and released. 
8. Make a list of 10 things that would have to happen in order to feel better about oneself.
9. Rather than daydreaming about life,(loss of energy) use affirmation posters, or creative visualization, to put positive energy on life.  Then take Action! A great way of building high self esteem!
   

Have a willingness to take responsibility for one’s life.

• If we do something wrong and then take responsibility, we right the wrong.  This is the first step.  The next step is take responsibility for everything in one’s life.  What does this really mean?  It means we take responsibility for all our thoughts, feelings, opinions, judgments, observations and actions.  This really helps with building high self esteem. 
  
  By taking responsibility for everything in our lives, what we are saying is we are taking ownership of our lives.  Our feelings, thoughts, opinions, actions etc belong to us and only us.  No one else has any claim whatsoever.  In other words no one else is making us think, feel and do what we do.  We are doing all of that on our own.  If this is too radical an idea, just try it on for size and see what it feels like. 
  
  This is so important to building high self esteem for it is the beginning of true self awareness and self actualization.  From this point we can create our lives.  This is the place of high self esteem. When we truly own our lives, we have high self esteem and can create what we really want for ourselves. We know who we are and we are now following our bliss. See self esteem exercises.
  

Don’t take things personally. If we do, then take responsibility.

• If we take things personally all there is to do is take responsibility for our part.  Own it.  Don’t blame the other person or situation.  We are human.  We are going to take things personally at one time or another.  The only way to get our personal power back is take responsibility for whatever we took personally.  Why we took it personally, is a whole other question which we’ll talk about in changing core beliefs
  

Write and/or speak self esteem affirmations to continue to change negative thought patterns.

• This is one of the best things to do for ongoing self change.  It changes our negative thoughts and feelings into positive ones.  When that happens, our circumstances now begin to mirror the new positive belief systems.  See self esteem affirmations.
  

Expand list of things to do for oneself and do something just for you every week.

• The more we do this the better we feel.  The better we feel the more we want to do something just for us.  It is a wonderful vicious circle.  From once a week this can change to once a day!  It really helps us with our self esteem which is all about feeling better about who we are.
  

Love and approve of ourselves first, rather than 2nd or 3rd or 4th etc. Put ourselves first in our lives.

• A lot of us put ourselves 2nd, 3rd, or 4th down the list after our wives, husbands, kids, careers, jobs etc.  Building high self esteem now means putting ourselves first in our lives.  When we do this we automatically give to our loved ones more from being “filled up”, rather than half empty.  It is hard to give from a half empty place.  It is still challenging for me to put myself first in my life.  I am much better at it than I used to be, so am making some progress here. 
  

Be alive to opportunities to express kindness and love.  What we share with others comes back to us.  The opposite of this exercise is also true.  If we express our anger to someone it is highly likely we will attract anger back to us.  Think law of attraction here.

• The more we give, the more we receive.  One mirrors the other.  If we express kindness and love, to our fellow human beings, it is more likely we will receive this back than anger and sadness.
  

Feeling depressed about anything?  Write out on a piece of paper things I feel guilty and angry about.  Once done, then write forgiven across the page.  Then burn the paper.  As much as we want to believe that what we feel is the truth, they are simply our feelings and need to be felt and released.

• Our feelings are not the truth about something.  They are feelings to be felt and released.  If we can get this, we will spend a lot less time being depressed about something or someone, and just feel these feelings.
  

Make a list of 10 things that would have to happen in order to feel better about oneself.

• If a situation is causing grief, or some kind of upset, take a step back.  Get out a pen and a piece of paper and write out a list of 10 things (it doesn’t have to be 10) that would have to happen in order to feel better about yourself and the situation.  What this does is give space so one can be more objective and change the focus to doing something positive. 
  

Rather than daydreaming about life,(loss of energy)  use affirmation posters, or creative visualization, to put positive energy on life.  Then take Action!

• Daydreaming wastes energy.  Sometimes is it fun to do in a sort of whimsical way.  Too much daydreaming about our lives and no action taken, goes nowhere.  That’s why I highly recommend using affirmation posters.  They help us to stay focused on what truly matters, are fun to do, and inspiring to look at. See affirmation posters.
  

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Building high self esteem can be challenging, difficult, yet so rewarding.  If we are willing to hang in there and stay committed, anything is possible.  With Self Esteem Help Now, help is always here for those having a challenging time of it and need a gentle kind hand along the way. 

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