Self Esteem Worksheets For Parents A Way To Increase Self Esteem

Please print these self esteem worksheets for parents. 

These questions will force you in a way, to look at yourselves more truthfully and honestly.  The links to additional pages offer more information and support to raise your self esteem.

Part One Of Self Esteem Worksheets For Parents

1). Describe your relationship with your Girlfriend or Boyfriend or Wife or Husband.

A). Communication:

• Please see passive listening.
• Please see active listening.
• Please see I messages.

How well do you communicate?

Are you able to say no and mean it and be heard by the other person?

How well do each of you listen while the other person is speaking?

If an argument occurs how important is it for you to be right?

Do you give in easily fearful of standing up for yourself or of rocking the boat?

How do these arguments get resolved? 

B). Boundaries: 

Are either one of you people pleasers?

Have difficulty saying no when you don’t want to do something?

Do you take it personally when the other person says no to you? 

Are you able to take responsibility for getting your own needs met? 

Are you able to ask to be loved when you don’t feel lovable?

Are you able to express all of your feelings to the other person without fear of being judged?

C). Fun:  Are you able to have fun with each other.

D). Sex:  Are you able to ask for what you want.

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Part Two Of Self Esteem Worksheets For Parents

Not getting our dependency needs met as young children is the main cause of low self esteem!!!

Dependency needs are needs we have that we cannot get met on our own and need the help of our primary caregivers to achieve.

2). Describe your relationship with your children.

A). From birth to 9 months old.  Infant stage of childhood development.

Dependency needs met yes or no?

Basic survival needs: 

• Shelter
• Food
• Protection
• Changing diapers 

Dependency Needs:

• Unconditional love and warmth. 
  
• The need to bond to the parents, particularly the mother.

Child feels: I have hope.  I can just be.  I can trust you.  I am you.  (Part of the baby, Mother bonding.)

As adults with our dependency needs met, we naturally trust ourselves to get our basic needs met and it is easy to form healthy relationships.

What happens when the infant doesn’t get these dependency needs met? The bond between infant and mother is the foundation for all future relationships. If the bond is not there to whatever degree, then the infant grows up believing he or she has no right to depend on anyone.  This can develop into pathological (addiction) relationships with food, drugs, sex, and work and so on.  

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B). From 9 months to 3 yrs old.  Toddler stage of childhood development.

Dependency needs met yes or no?

Physical Needs:

• The need to explore and do. 
• The need for healthy limits.

Dependency Needs:

• The need to separate from parents and have that be ok. 
• The beginning of true independence.  

What happens when we get our dependency needs met? The child then feels I am me (part of the separation from parents, the terrible “2”, s). I have limits. I have willpower. I can be separate. I can be curious and explore and do. 

When we grow up to be adults, with our dependency needs met, we now have healthy limits and willpower. We can say no and mean it. We are naturally curious about life and do not hesitate to explore our world.

What can happen when we don’t get these needs met? It’s not okay to be you.  What you feel, do and think are wrong. 

When we grow up to be adults, our now wounded inner child, acts out or acts in.  Acting out may mean having addiction issues, taking no responsibility for one’s self, and being a people pleaser.  Acting in may mean being critical and judgmental of yourself and others.

C). From 3 yrs old to 6 yrs old.  Pre-school stage of childhood development.

Dependency needs met yes or no?

Physical Needs: 

• The need to ask why (there is so much to figure out).

Dependency Needs:

• The need to be independent.
• The need to be someone - I am a boy, I am a girl.

What happens when we get our dependency needs met? The child then feels I have purpose and value. I am someone. I can imagine and feel. I am independent.

As adults, with our dependency needs met, we are okay with our individuality. We belong to ourselves. We are also independent of the good opinion of others.

What can happen when we don’t get these needs met? A lack of individuality prohibits kids from feeling that they have the right to a life of their own. 

This is the beginning of being responsible for other people’s feelings and behaviors as adults.

D). From 6 yrs old to 18 yrs old.  School stage of childhood development.

Dependency needs met yes or no?

Physical Needs:

• Becoming competent. 
• Enjoying the learning and knowing process.

Dependency Needs: 

• Becoming interdependent and cooperative.

What happens when we get our dependency needs met? The child then says I have competence. I have limits. I can be skilful. I can think and learn. I am capable.

As an adult with these dependency needs met, we have confidence in who we are and what we are doing; we think for ourselves and learn when we need to plus we are capable of having a life that works.

What can happen when we don’t get these needs met? We don’t feel okay as adults.  Something is wrong with us.  We don’t feel capable in our lives and we suffer from low self confidence.  We also have a low sense of self worth or another way to put it, low self esteem.

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Part Three Of Self Esteem Worksheets For Parents

4). Describe your relationship with your kids as adults.

From 18 yrs old to 29 yrs old

Relationship:

• Is there mutual love, trust and respect? 
• If not, why not?

Communication:

• Do you communicate easily with each other? 
• Do you communicate as adults?

Boundaries:

• Do you have boundaries with each other and do you respect them? 
• Is there any co dependence between you – in other words does your son or daughter still rely on you to help get their needs met?  

From 30 yrs old to now.

Relationship:

• Is there mutual love, trust and respect? 
• If not, why not?

Communication:

• Do you communicate easily with each other? 
• Do you communicate as adults?

Boundaries:

• Do you have boundaries with each other and do you respect them? 
• Is there any co dependence between you – in other words does your son or daughter still rely on you to help get their needs met? 

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Answering these questions on self esteem worksheets for parents, will make you more self aware of all your major relationships, especially with yourself, and will start you off on the road to self discovery and to increasing your self esteem and also your children’s self esteem.

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