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Up The Love, Issue #003-inspiring stories
July 01, 2016
Welcome to the 3rd issue of the Up The Love newsletter!!
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This monthly newsletter contains, original articles, best tips on raising self esteem, inspiring stories and quotes to bend your ear and even make you laugh.
In this 3rd issue are 2 inspiring stories concerning my son Jason. The 3rd and final story regarding Jason is one guaranteed to make you laugh out loud. It doesn’t have anything related to self esteem. It’s just a funny funny story.
Ist StoryI am going to pick up my 4 year old son Jason at his Daycare near the University. When I get there Jas says to me “Daddy I want to take out a book on dinosaurs”. I am the last parent to pick up their child and the Daycare is waiting for me so they can close up shop. They have a small in house library which is now closed. I said to my son “I’m sorry Jas, the library is closed and you’ll have to get the book out tomorrow”.
He looked at me, and said angrily, “You stupid cracker” (I did everything I could to not burst out laughing). Then I said (after I recovered) you’re really mad at me (with feeling). Jas says “I want that book” and that was the end of that. He had his angry moment, got to express that to me and once I used active listening and emotionally validated what he was feeling, he let it go. Then he was back to his usual funny, curious 4 year old self telling me to sit down in my truck and he would tell me all the facts about dinosaurs. By emotionally validating Jason, he got to see that his feelings were important. Rather than being a reasonable parent and explaining things or being impatient with him, or not really listening and telling him to hurry up and get ready, I mirrored back his angry statement to me with feeling.
2nd StoryAfter work, I drove to my 5 year old son’s new Daycare. It seems Jason had a rather remarkable day. The Day Care Supervisor told me Jason asked all the kids to get together in a circle. Tired of being picked on for being the new kid on the block, he told them how he felt about being teased. Other kids, who were too shy to speak up, and had been there longer than Jason, also shared how they felt. He led a little seminar on “telling his truth” and “taking responsibility” for his feelings.
I had been practicing using a new way of communicating with my son. It seems he took this to heart when he confronted his friends at his Daycare and shared how he felt about being teased.
What is remarkable, is how other kids, who were too shy to speak up, felt empowered to share how they were feeling as well.
Honesty and openness foster intimacy. When parents and children learn to be open and honest with each other, they are no longer strangers in the same house.
3rd Story(when self-preservation tops self esteem)I left my 4 year old son Jason at his Grandparents for a 2 day visit. When I came back 2 days later my Dad told me this story.
Jason was sitting on his Grandmothers lap and she was reading him a book on dinosaurs (his favorite subject). My Dad was sitting on the couch watching them. Suddenly Dad got down on his knees and yelled out I’m a boy eating dinosaur. Well Jason screamed, jumped off his Grandmothers lap, ran behind the chair, and yelled eat Grandma first!!!
My parents laughed for days.
Thanks so much for taking the time to read this original article.
The next newsletter is due out August 1st, 2016.
Self esteem quote: That which you constantly affirm, must be true. I affirm that I am a happy, healthy successful person.
Comments, questions and observations please e-mail me at: firstname.lastname@example.org
With love, Dave.
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