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Up The Love, Issue #015 Cancer and Self Esteem
December 01, 2017

Welcome to the 15th issue of the Up The Love newsletter!!

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In this 15th issue is an original article on Cancer and Self Esteem.

Cancer and Self Esteem

Does having cancer effect one’s self esteem? Yes. What can you do to feel better about yourself and raise your self esteem?

1). Be independent of the good opinion of others and have a positive attitude.

No matter what diagnosis you receive, potentially curable to terminal perhaps 3 to 12 months to live, be in charge of your own health and life. Oncologists (cancer doctors) know all the tendencies of tumors. They don’t know you. I repeat they don’t know you. We are made up of 4 elements – physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Oncologists are only relating to you on the physical level. Positive attitude:

You have cancer, the cancer doesn’t have you! You are far, far, far more powerful than this cancer.

Questions to ask:

What is out of balance in my self and my life? Focus on the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual.

What are the lessons I need to learn in having this cancer? For example: do I need to learn forgiveness of myself and others; be more compassionate and giving; learn to put myself first in my life and finally be worthy of my own love.

It is very easy to love others, but much more difficult to love and be kind to ourselves. 2). Cancer cells are weak cells. Cancer cells are not overpowering, healthy, robust cells. They are weak cells.

3). There is nothing to fight.

In my opinion this notion that there is always something to fight and that there must be an enemy, an adversary, a foe comes from when America became a country. They fought the British, won the battle, and became the United States of America. The right to bare arms is in the Constitution.

We must fight the cold, the flu, all manner of illnesses including cancer, poverty etc. Given that all illnesses occur in our bodies and that is where we live, does it make sense to fight ourselves? Food for thought.

Instead, in my belief system, we must learn to love ourselves. This is the source of all healing and happiness!! Given that cancer cells are weak cells we have already won!

4). Change and Forgiveness

Doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results is the definition of insanity. Doing whatever we did, thinking whatever we did, feeling whatever we did got us into this diagnosis of cancer.

We must change!!

Forgiveness is the healing feeling. If we have any regrets and resentments and if we don’t forgive we can never let go of the hurt and our past. 5). The most powerful healing method I know.

Family Systems Therapy is the most effective, powerful, permanent healing method I know. The therapy has a strong emotional content. It focuses on grieving the dependency needs we didn’t get met as children during the 4 critical development stages of childhood – infant, toddler, pre-school and school age. These very particular needs are needs we couldn’t get met ourselves and relied on our parents for support in getting them met. Every child without exception has these needs. Not getting these needs met is the cause of all behavioural dysfunction, co-dependency and all addictions. As you can see the impact on our lives is staggering. We try as adults to get these needs met but don’t. According to the Therapy, the wounded inner child is running the show, not the adult.

I highly recommend finding a counsellor (not a life coach) who is educated and very familiar with Family Systems Therapy. Be willing to feel and release any and all feelings that may arise. The potential for healing is just enormous and permanent.

I’ve read somewhere that there is a science called psychoneuroimmunology, apparently being taught at the University level in California.

It’s all about the relationship between a person’s emotional well being and their immune system. Given that cancer is an autoimmune disease and if we feel and release suppressed and deep negative feelings, what is possible?

In my opinion and experience, doing this what I call the inner work, the Family Systems Therapy is the absolute best way to heal and raise self esteem, without a doubt!! If you have a willingness, a desire to heal your body and finally to release your past, and be happy, healthy and successful, commit to doing the “Therapy”.

Thanks so much for taking the time to read this original article.

The next newsletter is due out January 1st, 2018.

Self esteem quote: The greatest gift you can give yourself, family, loved ones, friends and your world is to live a healed life!!

Dare to be a better you!!You are worth the time, money, effort and love!!

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With love, Dave.

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