Self Esteem And Relationship Go Hand In Mouth!

 Self esteem and relationship are like chocolate and a sweet tooth.  The more we have of one, the more we have of the other.  The greater our self esteem the greater the possibility of having a healthy relationship. 

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When we feel genuinely good about ourselves, we need the other person less, to help us feel good. A lot of relationships are based on 50 50.  This means we rely on the other person roughly 50% of the time, to make us feel okay about ourselves. 

In reality, a healthy relationship, with good to great self esteem present, is 100% 0.  What does this mean?  It means we do not rely on our partners at all to feel good about ourselves.  We know how to make ourselves feel good naturally.   All toxic relationships have some degree of 50 50 going on.


5 Main Benefits of self esteem and relationship.

  1. When we increase our self esteem, our ability to have a healthy relationship increases too.
  2. We create more in life as a couple as opposed to complain about what is not working.
  3. Neither partner in general, takes things that are said personally.  If they do, either one knows how to take responsibility for their part.  This reduces the time of the upset.
  4. Each partner tends to put themselves first in their lives.
  5. With greater self esteem comes better communication.

When we increase our self esteem, our ability to have a healthy relationship increases too.

  • By increasing our self esteem, we naturally want to be with people who have done the same for themselves.  It becomes too painful to go back to the old ways of thinking, feeling and doing.  Like attracts like.

We create more in life as a couple as opposed to complain about what is not working.

  • When we have more self esteem, we tend to create more in life as a couple.  When our self esteem is low the tendency is to complain about what is not working.

Neither partner in general, takes things that are said personally.  If they do, either one knows how to take responsibility for their part.  This reduces the time of the upset.

  • Now that we know how to take responsibility for ourselves, we can move faster through upsetting times.  We have the skills to resolve the upset as opposed to being angry for days.

Each partner tends to put themselves first in their lives.

  • What this means is each partner takes responsibility for meeting their own needs.  This reduces relying on the other partner to get their needs met and also reduces any resentment and or anger that may build up over time.

With greater self esteem comes better communication.


Self esteem and relationship really do go together like chocolate and a sweet tooth! Increase self esteem and watch how much easier it is to have a sweet healthy relationship.

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